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Transparency

March 3, 2008

I always have to ask myself how transparent should I be. How open? If I don’t share the things I have experienced…and the things I am currently going through, how will I find healing? And how will I help others to heal? It is in sharing our life experiences that we find out that we are not alone. Others have been through similar things. And the camaraderie and healing that can result from that sharing is incredible.

It is clear to me that we are created for community. Some of the most powerful healing I have experienced has come out of that community…out of sharing, whether in a small group or one on one. It is in the sharing and giving of myself with others and the sharing of others with me that growth is most often found.

Healing is hard work. But when we join together, how much more work is done as the stronger ones help the weaker ones. Those of us who are a bit farther down the road in an area of our lives can help those of us who are not so far along. Walking together eases the burdens of our hearts.

We all have something to share. Some of my healing has come in helping others. Some of it has come in others helping me. No matter how far along I am in my life, there are always some areas in which I am farther behind someone else and some areas in whch I am farther along. And the converse is also true. There are always others who have both something to offer and something they need.

I like the give and take in our healing journeys. No one is above another. We all walk together, side by side, being there for one another. How sad it is when I see someone who is still so locked up inside that they are unable to reach out. The fear is still so strong and it is sometimes next to impossible to trust anyone. Yet, the only way I know to learn how to trust, is to just start taking the risk and doing it. Little by little, bit by bit, I have had to learn who to trust and how much they can be trusted with.

Yes, I have been hurt along the way at times. In fact, I have been outright betrayed. But I have grown more than I have been hurt. I have been blessed in so many ways that I would not trade it for anything, in spite of the hurts and betrayals. And I have made some very precious friends in the process. I have also lost some very precious friends. But I am grateful for the gift of their friendship during the time I had them.

There is a bible verse that says:

2Co 1:3-4 HNV
(3) Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Yeshua the Messiah, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort;
(4) who comforts us in all our affliction, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, through the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

I have been comforted. In sharing what I have gone through and how I have been comforted and healed, I can hopefully share that comfort with others. It is my desire and hope to give to others as I have been given to…to pass it on! And that means being transparent about myself. It means sharing my inner self and what I have been through. And that is a huge part of what this blog is all about!

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