Posts Tagged ‘child rape’

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Webinars From Survivorship

October 16, 2009

Survivorship recently started having Webinars. Survivorship has many wonderful resources and I highly recommend it to those who are seeking to understand Ritual Abuse (RA) so that they can support a survivor they know and for survivors who need support.

Webinars are a wonderful way to attend a seminar in the safety and comfort of your own home. Many survivors are not yet ready to meet other survivors face to face. This allows them to “get together” without having in person contact. While it tends to be more affordable due to not having travel expenses, you do have to phone in, so long distance charges might be a factor for some.

In a Webinar, you are given a phone number in a registration email, along with a sign in number. When the time comes, you call the number and dial in your sign in number at the prompt. At that point, you are connected. If the presenter has already signed in, you are on the phone with them. If not, you are put on hold with music while you wait.

You are also given a link for the internet so that you can see the slides that the presenter is using. After you are on the phone, you go to the link and login with the number you were given in the registration email. At that point you are allowed to type in the name you wish to use in the seminar. You are not mandated to use your real name. That is a feature that helps many to feel safer and more comfortable.

Another nice thing is that the software also has a chat window. This is great for those who are uncomfortable with speaking out loud or who are still struggling to find their voice. Some presenters are OK with the chat window. Some are not. It depends upon the presenter. Sometimes, the chat window can be distracting.

Although I can type pretty fast, I preferred speaking. It is faster and more convenient for me, especially if I am struggling to find the right words to say. This is one reason that someone listening to the recording might find me fumbling a bit…looking for the words to say what I am trying to say. But saying it, for me, is powerful. I don’t often get a chance to talk about my experiences with others. Hearing my voice speaking things and having others listen and hear…and “get it”. Wow! I cannot really explain how empowering…how validating that is…especially when others are sharing their experiences.

When I read what others have written, even though the sharing may be intimately personal, I still lack the dimension of sight and sound. I cannot see their expression or hear their tone. All I have are written words on a page. Being able to hear someone’s voice is so much more personal…so much more real. So, being heard and hearing others are two things that, for me, are very empowering and validating.

Survivorship has held several Webinars now. I have been privileged to attend two. Their first, and my first, I wrote about here. It was done by Jeannie Riseman on the subject of flashbacks. Jeannie is a retired therapist who works a LOT with  Survivorship. As a member of Survivorship, I have had interactions with Jeannie. I have always been very impressed by her compassion and levelheadedness…unlike some other therapists I have interacted with online.

My second Webinar was on forgiveness. It was led by Bonnie Brazill-Davis of Speak Out Services. In the Webinar she told her story, giving a general overview of her abuse experiences. As she did so, she walked us through the different aha moments that she had that helped her to find the ability to forgive her abusers. I really appreciated being able to hear her voice over the phone as she shared. As I mentioned previously, that was very powerful in itself.

I hope to attend future Webinars and hope that others will, too.

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Whoopi Goldberg…Sheesh!

October 10, 2009

Well…Whoopi just keeps on stepping in it. This woman needs to either shut up or truly be the child advocate she proclaims herself to be. Then again…Whoopi is Hollywood. Perhaps, she is unable to speak the truth because the truth hurts too much. Was she, perhaps, raped as a child? If so…and if she had not faced it…it would certainly explain her backing up Polanski. Pershaps, her own daughter or granddaughter have been raped and she does not want to face it. Who knows?

I know that the cult runs a lot of Hollywood. What place does Whoopi have with that? I have no idea. I am just trying to understand why a woman like her passed over the opportunity to speak up and defend the rights of all children everywhere…millions of children…to not be raped.

I have two articles to share with you. The first one blows holes in some of the common arguments for people accepting behaviors like rape as being “normal” or “moral”. Whoopi Goldberg was Right…Sort of

The other is Wendy Murphy’s second letter to Whoopi. It’s Time to Apologize, Whoopi

Both letters have excellent points and are well worth reading.

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When Is it Not “Rape Rape”?

September 30, 2009

I was reading Angela Shelton’s FaceBook page, which led me to her blog where I read her blog post: A Letter to Whoopi from Wendy Murphy.  (Both her FB and her blog are excellent, by the way, and I recommend reading them.)

Now, I don’t have TV, but I have seen snippets of “The View” on Youtube, or while in hotels. It never really looked like the kind of show I would actually want to watch, but this really cinched it for me.  If the following is an example of current women’s views on life…I am GLAD that I DON’T watch it!! This is total nonsense…no…more than that…it is actually horrifying nonsense.

A search on the net comes up with quite few mentions of Whoopi and her comment regarding what Roman Polanski really did with this 13 year old girl. There is an actual video clip from the show here.

I see Whoopi Goldberg as a very talented actress. I have seen her in a number of movies and enjoyed her. Although I do not know her well, I think I can safely say that we are not in agreement when it comes to politics. But never in my wildest dreams would I think that we would disagree as to whether or not a 45 year old man…or even ANY man…having sex with a 13 year old girl would be anything but RAPE!! That is one “view” I wish she had kept to herself!

HELLO…13 year old = child! An adult is ALWAYS in a mental and emotional power position over a child. Period…end of subject. It is not consensual…it is RAPE…plain and simple. To add to that, he first made her inebriated. AND, she told him “no”. Excuse me, Whoopi, but what part of “rape” do you not get???

Not “rape rape”? What the heck IS “rape rape”???? Is it that not being pregnant pregnant? Or robbed robbed? Sheesh!

I really like Wendy Murphy’s letter to Whoopi. You can find it here: An Open Letter to Whoopi Goldberg. Like Angela Shelton, I highly recommend you read it!

Go, Wendy! Grrrrr, Whoopi! Grrrrr, Polanski! Go, Angela!

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